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Turn-On your Chinese girlfriend with Mandarin

If you have been in a long distance relationship with a Chinese girl on Chnlove, we know how hard it can be! It’s even harder if this Chinese girl you are dating who can not speak any English! The biggest problems in long-distance relationships are misunderstandings due to culture-difference and language-difference, these of themselves caused many sleepless nights on both sides, not to mention pointless arguments and the odd-break up.

The most important thing we found was to be able to smooth misunderstandings over, and not create too many waves by exercising some much needed emotional discipline, but emotional discipline is not all you need in order to make sure the Chinese woman/girl in a long distance relationship still maintains her interest in you; in fact, although you may feel you are saying the right things, Mandarin being what it is, and your Chinese girlfreind’s thinking and culture being vastly different from your own, you may not be hitting the right buttons at all!

So let’s take a look at a few winning techniques that can make sure your Chinese girlfriend’s interest doesn’t wane, or even worse, her attentions don’t go elsewhere:

1. Here is one that is always nice to use: ‘ju li chansheng mei’ or ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’; the closer meaning is actually ‘distance creates beauty between people’, beauty in this case doesn’t particularly mean physical beauty, but can mean a kind of emotional beauty in much the same way as we may say seeing something through ‘rose tinted glasses’. Saying this sentence can therefore re-frame the long-distance experience into a romantic one for her, making its’ ongoing nature a pleasure rather than a burden.

2. ‘Wo zhen xiang ni, wode lao po'(wife)‘. This sentence basically translated means ‘I really miss you, my wife’. Now, firstly, you do not need to be actually married in order to be allowed to say this, she may not even have agreed to be your Chinese bride. This is simply a way of showing your Chinese girlfriend that your feelings are strong and committed to her. This is really important to Chinese women, and don’t worry that this is the same as asking her to marry you, because it’s not.

3. With this one we’re really going to ‘amp-up’ the emotional feelings: ‘Hen Duo de nv hai xi huan wo, dan shi wo zhi xi huan ni, bu xi huan ta men’. This sentence means ‘Lots of girls like me, but I want you and no one else’. This is a great sentence for not only conveying a depth of feeling and commitment to your Chinese girlfriend but also demonstrating your value.

Now, you may think you telling your Chinese girlfriend other women are attracted to you is maybe a bit unnecessary, and in a normal relationship where you are together everyday and can see each other, we might agree with you; but you are in a long distance relationship and the main point is to keep her, so you will often need a little bit more than just good old-fashioned love. For sure, you will be on her mind for days after, and she’ll make sure she puts in the work for you to!

As well as the above, make sure you don’t forget to say ‘wo ai ni’ (I love you) from time-to-time. We won’t advise you to say it every time, as too much of a good thing can be a bad thing, and may reduce desire (in our experience) as opposed to increasing desire in her (which is what you want); once for every four online chats is more than enough! Lol…Haha…

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